Wednesday, February 8, 2012

SUCCESS IN LIFE - THRO' INSTITUTIONS AS PARENTING & MARRIAGE

Hari! Om!
SUCCESS IN LIFE - THRO'  INSTITUTIONS AS PARENTING & MARRIAGE
Success in life generally means, Good Health, Peace, Associations, Satisfied Livelihood, Name, Fame, Economic Autonomy, Prosperity Etc.
Gone are the days of Nuclear Families of Marriage, in India, forget about the West. It is now only Separation / Divorces, due to various social atrocities and IMPORTANTLY, individual frame of mind.
Its not to be surprised, if  very soon in India, keeping pace with the West, we would have Seclusions. Present generations are literally more happy living alone, all along or to change partners often. Marriages are no longer Associations or Institutions but CONTRACTS. Young people really don’t know, are not able to decide or are not wise enough to know themselves, their aims, aspirations, requirements and values of Human relationships & Associations. Potentially, flexible Youngsters are more Rigid then Old People or Concrete, when it comes to Social Life & Living. Further, the priority is only for  earning money, gathering material possessions and nothing at all for Mutual Co-existence & Associations.

The present trend have actually begun may be TWO  Generations ago but  exposed to limelight only in recent times with seeds sown before. Thanks to the “Versatile & Aggressive Media”. There are more of negative influence of these exposure then positive on the  Indian Society.
I am of the firm opinion that the root cause to all these are the Parenting, Nurturing and of course the environment and influence of Western Culture, in the name of “Rights” etc etc causing gullible Indians to forget the Values of Traditions, Customs & Indian Culture and lose out on True Human Values & Relationships.
By the influence of Parent’s own History / up-bringing / experiences / mind set / career pre-occupations / Economical Conditions / Orthodoxy in  Traditional Customs followed & above all EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENTS, children happen to not get  the Human Values or Education, the Balanced Objective of Life, the Exposure to the Various Facets of Life & to know as to how the VERY LIFE, need to be lived. As a result Children by & large SUFFER from EITHER PAMPERING OR INDIFFERENCE. In both the cases, as the Children grow-up, they are not in a position to rightly Conduct with themselves, their Career,  the World, the Society, all through. Resulting in Children themselves getting into MIND SETS, EMOTIONAL TIES & POSSESSIVENESS and then of course dis-satisfaction in Life, Family Ties, Separations, Breakage of Marriages, consequently, adverse influence on the Children’s Children, as a chain reaction.
Of course, there is a  wonderful element of the DESTINY or BLESSINGS OF THE ALMIGHTY, which also need to happen, without which nothing can really go on. Yet we should look at our Attitude / Actions / deeds and ways to IMPROVE ON THEM ON CONTINOUS BASIS, leaving rest to the HIGHER.
I pity the Parents, who can only watch as Silent Spectators, during their OLD AGE to suffer with the mental block of Emotions  to the Intellect &  their Physical In-capacity, in a deserted dwelling.
This is all due to lack of objectivity in the up-bringing with TOTAL control by the Emotional Attachment / Possessiveness & a Mind Set formed by the Parent’s or Super Parents’ own Experiences of the Past that allows them to put in  all out effort to PROVIDE THE BEST OF MATERIAL NEEDS & COMFORTS TO THEIR CHILDREN BUT MISSING OUT ON TRANSFERING THE TRUE VALUES OF LIFE & LIVING.
Pl. excuse me, Parents & Children who love their Parents a lot. I beg all your pardon, Its not to offend anybody but to only share my thoughts which I firmly believe in and out of all the Concern, Regard for the Children, The Parents , with all the Sincere Objectivity.
I do regard very sincerely all of them and their sincere self-less effort to bring-up their Off-springs,  with all the Hardships & Sacrifices.
Though, I am not old or experienced at Parenting as many of the Wise & Learned Friends in the Society or Forums, yet with my keen Observations, Thinking & Analysis of My Life Experiences with various People in all Walks of Societies across the Globe, close Community & Family from near to far, have had Long Exhaustive Associations & been Audience to many situations and hence am able to quote this Concern.
I am just reminded of a very GROSS & a very well known example but from the Global Political Arena and would like to share. USA did pamper Pakistan, Iraq, Israel & Koreans to show their supremacy , other motives & over aspirations to Influence the whole world. The result, USA themselves are suffering now.
The example may not be very relevant, yet the idea of quoting the example is to catch the message on PAMPER.
I repeat, the present trends beginning with Children Brought-up, Career Development, Marriage Associations, begetting Off-springs  and so on, we all truly lack in Clarity of Purpose and are just going about it all as a MECHANICAL RITUAL with a HERD INSTINCT.
 As we all grow-up we all need to inculcate Human Values, Self- Discipline, Control Over Emotions, Channelizing the Emotions to burn out the VASANAS, Firm Commitments towards Self, Parents, Super Parents, Family, Community, Society, Humanity, Environment & Nature and above all Excellent Communication & Conduct with oneself, Parents etc etc
This way, children can grow out to be good personalities, overall, whatever may be their professions, occupations, economic conditions, position in societies and could be most fit to get into commitments, as Marriage Associations etc., else we would all be unfit and only ruin our lives / marriages and pollute or terrorize the Societies.
MARRIAGES ARE ONES THAT ARE PARAMOUNT AMONG ALL ASSOCIATIONS. There are great histories of significance  on the Institution of Marriage, from time im-memorial.  

In a Marriage Institution, Husband & Wife are the Torch Bearers and MRs’  ( Management Representatives)  of the Association of the Two Families in the Community or Society. They need to be of a very Matured Outlook as they have a lot of Responsibility on their shoulders. Whatever consequences of their stand or actions get carried carried long way ahead in time and no one would have any clue to the cause of the situation at that later point of time. And hence need have to be very watchful in all.
Marriages are of course must in societies for social growth, development & mutual association and do Bridge Gaps.
I suggest young parents to focus on such thoughts to objectively inculcate Human values in children and develop Ideal Personalities to  keep the Marriage & Parent  Institutions on High Esteem in the Society. Success of LIFE & OR SOCIETY can be best achieved by Ideal Parenting & Marriage.

I am sure many of the Readers may be in a much better position to quote or share their views & experiences. I request & look forward to their valuable  comments  / suggestions / advices to this.
Jai! Hind!

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

SAVING SANSKRIT / INDIAN TRADITION TO REGAIN LOST VALUES

Hari! Om!


This post is just a REMINDER or WAKE-UP CALL, in continuation to some comments recently exchanged on the subject, in Face book. This was in reaction to Indian Government’s plan to declare SANSKRIT as a dead language, based on a Population Census of SANSKRIT users.
We really don’t know what is the motive behind the plan and what is going to be the Achievement & urgency for the same. There are so many issues and problems to be dealt with. In fact there are SOLUTIONS to most if not all of the issues, in the SANSKRIT SCRIPTURAL TEXTS and we gain all the SPIRITUAL ( Management in the “so called” & “advanced” Modern world) values from them for ETERNITY, as they are for ALL TIME.
The Indian polity, is going in for a RANSOM at the cost of losing the Heritage, Culture, Values, Valuables of the Great Bharat to the Western World, especially with loyalties to NRIs', their glorification ( I don't mean Non-Resident Indians) and acute lack of Patriotism & Individuality.

THIS IS NOTHING NEW, ITS BEEN GOING ON FROM TIME IMMEMORIAL, AND ALL IN THE NAME OF " ATHITHI DEVO BHAVA" and deceived from its true & depth of the meaning.

Its true that Sanskrit is a very precious language, a torch bearer of the Age Old Indian Tradition. Its depths are much much beyond any of the contemporary or post-contemporary. The all time high values of Sanskrit, the Indian Tradition and their Foundations & Basements in the Indian Sub-continent have suffered, for over Centuries & Millenniums Foreign exploitations, resulting in dilution of the values prevalent then to the levels of what we have now, all out of MIS-CONCEPTION & MIS-INTERPRETATION of the age old & very popular Sanskrit slogan of the Indian tradition, " ATHITHI DEVO BHAVA".

We are only to be blamed for all this situation. The paradox is the Exploiters have a better aerial & insight of the Tradition than we Custodians, Protectors, Developers & Valuers of the tradition, to know how to exploit. To convince on this point, an example of our present times is we have more & better masters of the Tradition & Sanskrit in Non-Indians.

The greatness of the Tradition, the Communicator (Sanskrit) & THEIR DEPTHS are such that when in suffering the exploitations, it maintained & maintains and will maintain an attitude of a SACRIFICIAL ANODE.A person with basic knowledge of electro-chemistry can very well understand, what a sacrificial anode means. Nevertheless, what it means in simple language is, IT PROTECTS THE OTHER(CATHODE) IN THE PROCESS OF ITSELF ( ANODE) GETTING DESTROYED OR EATEN AWAY. The Nature is also of the same attitude, A Mother is of the same attitude towards the Child. We as the Child of the Mother or the Nature or the Tradition or Sanskrit what are we doing?

We have allowed the torch to extinguish and are facilitating to DECLARE SANSKRIT AS DEAD. Its our duty to protect the tradition and unless Sanskrit is protected through its spread, the Indian Tradition would not remain & continue to our Future. Now that we are aware that we are NOT AWARE of the VALUES, why not we all together be on the job of re-gaining / re-inculcating the values, the tradition, the Mastery of Sanskrit. Everyone should be taught, educated on Sanskrit, its values, its importance, use in the present times. The Indian Tradition is a WAY OF LIFE & Sanskrit is the Communicator, the facilitator, the Carrier much much beyond any thing that we take refuge in, in the present times.

We come across, Sales Representatives, Medical Representatives, PREACHERS, canvassing for their products or attempting to spread their philosophies. Why not we take it as our prerogative to protect the TRADITION because it is in DISTRESS. In fact it is our responsibility now, as we are the culprits. Just because the Mother endures the child, it doesn't mean the child should take advantage or misuse the endurance. Let us frame an attitudinal "motto" of getting into Core Indian Tradition Influence.

The Ground Reality, from where we have to begin is,
Present day life Sanskrit is rarely used in day to day life. Only English and foreign languages  used in professions. At the same it is not fair on our part to ignore Sanskrit as we do not ignore our mother just because she has become old. ( A comment / concern from a learned friend)

The idea is actually to catch the values in there for LIFE & LIVING and not MERELY attach ourselves to the language / tradition or the philosophy. This itself is made clear in there because as Human Beings we are prone to get attached to anything GROSS even, due to our EMOTIONAL SELF. When we can attach to anything gross, then what to say when in session with such deepest of the deepest Subjects.

The young India, now the maximum population of the land are in the age group of 20-30 years, are the supposed and POTENTIAL SAVIOURS’ OF THE INDIAN TRADITION, SANSKRIT and all that is in there. India has all along been ruthlessly, influenced and exploited by foreigners, even to-day, including the TRADITION etc, only because of the Weakness Concept of “Athithi Devo Bhava” & taking PRIDE IN ANYTHING WESTERN. Rather the foreigners are clever enough to convert the other’s Value or weakness as their Strength to exploit.

Pray!  Let the Saviors’ get all the Strength & Energy, Knowledge & Wisdom, Action & Dynamism and Patience to peacefully carry forward the Tradition to the future.

Jai! Hind!