SUCCESS IN LIFE - THRO' INSTITUTIONS AS PARENTING & MARRIAGE

Hari! Om!

SUCCESS IN LIFE - THRO'  INSTITUTIONS AS PARENTING & MARRIAGE

Success in life generally means, Good Health, Peace, Associations, Satisfied Livelihood, Name, Fame, Economic Autonomy, Prosperity Etc.

Gone are the days of Nuclear Families of Marriage, in India, forget about the West. It is now only Separation / Divorces, due to various social atrocities and IMPORTANTLY, individual frame of mind.

Its not to be surprised, if  very soon in India, keeping pace with the West, we would have Seclusions. Present generations are literally more happy living alone, all along or to change partners often. Marriages are no longer Associations or Institutions but CONTRACTS. Young people really don’t know, are not able to decide or are not wise enough to know themselves, their aims, aspirations, requirements and values of Human relationships & Associations. Potentially, flexible Youngsters are more Rigid then Old People or Concrete, when it comes to Social Life & Living. Further, the priority is only for  earning money, gathering material possessions and nothing at all for Mutual Co-existence & Associations.

The present trend have actually begun may be TWO  Generations ago but  exposed to limelight only in recent times with seeds sown before. Thanks to the “Versatile & Aggressive Media”. There are more of negative influence of these exposure then positive on the  Indian Society.

I am of the firm opinion that the root cause to all these are the Parenting, Nurturing and of course the environment and influence of Western Culture, in the name of “Rights” etc etc causing gullible Indians to forget the Values of Traditions, Customs & Indian Culture and lose out on True Human Values & Relationships.

By the influence of Parent’s own History / up-bringing / experiences / mind set / career pre-occupations / Economical Conditions / Orthodoxy in  Traditional Customs followed & above all EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENTS, children happen to not get  the Human Values or Education, the Balanced Objective of Life, the Exposure to the Various Facets of Life & to know as to how the VERY LIFE, need to be lived. As a result Children by & large SUFFER from EITHER PAMPERING OR INDIFFERENCE. In both the cases, as the Children grow-up, they are not in a position to rightly Conduct with themselves, their Career,  the World, the Society, all through. Resulting in Children themselves getting into MIND SETS, EMOTIONAL TIES & POSSESSIVENESS and then of course dis-satisfaction in Life, Family Ties, Separations, Breakage of Marriages, consequently, adverse influence on the Children’s Children, as a chain reaction.

Of course, there is a  wonderful element of the DESTINY or BLESSINGS OF THE ALMIGHTY, which also need to happen, without which nothing can really go on. Yet we should look at our Attitude / Actions / deeds and ways to IMPROVE ON THEM ON CONTINOUS BASIS, leaving rest to the HIGHER.

I pity the Parents, who can only watch as Silent Spectators, during their OLD AGE to suffer with the mental block of Emotions  to the Intellect &  their Physical In-capacity, in a deserted dwelling.

This is all due to lack of objectivity in the up-bringing with TOTAL control by the Emotional Attachment / Possessiveness & a Mind Set formed by the Parent’s or Super Parents’ own Experiences of the Past that allows them to put in  all out effort to PROVIDE THE BEST OF MATERIAL NEEDS & COMFORTS TO THEIR CHILDREN BUT MISSING OUT ON TRANSFERING THE TRUE VALUES OF LIFE & LIVING.

Pl. excuse me, Parents & Children who love their Parents a lot. I beg all your pardon, Its not to offend anybody but to only share my thoughts which I firmly believe in and out of all the Concern, Regard for the Children, The Parents , with all the Sincere Objectivity.

I do regard very sincerely all of them and their sincere self-less effort to bring-up their Off-springs,  with all the Hardships & Sacrifices.

Though, I am not old or experienced at Parenting as many of the Wise & Learned Friends in the Society or Forums, yet with my keen Observations, Thinking & Analysis of My Life Experiences with various People in all Walks of Societies across the Globe, close Community & Family from near to far, have had Long Exhaustive Associations & been Audience to many situations and hence am able to quote this Concern.

I am just reminded of a very GROSS & a very well known example but from the Global Political Arena and would like to share. USA did pamper Pakistan, Iraq, Israel & Koreans to show their supremacy , other motives & over aspirations to Influence the whole world. The result, USA themselves are suffering now.

The example may not be very relevant, yet the idea of quoting the example is to catch the message on PAMPER.

I repeat, the present trends beginning with Children Brought-up, Career Development, Marriage Associations, begetting Off-springs  and so on, we all truly lack in Clarity of Purpose and are just going about it all as a MECHANICAL RITUAL with a HERD INSTINCT.

 As we all grow-up we all need to inculcate Human Values, Self- Discipline, Control Over Emotions, Channelizing the Emotions to burn out the VASANAS, Firm Commitments towards Self, Parents, Super Parents, Family, Community, Society, Humanity, Environment & Nature and above all Excellent Communication & Conduct with oneself, Parents etc etc

This way, children can grow out to be good personalities, overall, whatever may be their professions, occupations, economic conditions, position in societies and could be most fit to get into commitments, as Marriage Associations etc., else we would all be unfit and only ruin our lives / marriages and pollute or terrorize the Societies.

MARRIAGES ARE ONES THAT ARE PARAMOUNT AMONG ALL ASSOCIATIONS. There are great histories of significance  on the Institution of Marriage, from time im-memorial.  

In a Marriage Institution, Husband & Wife are the Torch Bearers and MRs’  ( Management Representatives)  of the Association of the Two Families in the Community or Society. They need to be of a very Matured Outlook as they have a lot of Responsibility on their shoulders. Whatever consequences of their stand or actions get carried carried long way ahead in time and no one would have any clue to the cause of the situation at that later point of time. And hence need have to be very watchful in all.

Marriages are of course must in societies for social growth, development & mutual association and do Bridge Gaps.

I suggest young parents to focus on such thoughts to objectively inculcate Human values in children and develop Ideal Personalities to  keep the Marriage & Parent  Institutions on High Esteem in the Society. Success of LIFE & OR SOCIETY can be best achieved by Ideal Parenting & Marriage.

I am sure many of the Readers may be in a much better position to quote or share their views & experiences. I request & look forward to their valuable  comments  / suggestions / advices to this.

Jai! Hind!